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Dating Tips For Men
For most guys, dating is like crossing a mind field, especially if it's a new experience with a new lady and they want to make a good impression. They feel that they have to step across enemy lines, which means that one step in the wrong direction, and boom, it's all over.
Not all men have the confidence to walk up to a lady and ask her out, and most honest guys will tell you that it makes their blood pressure rise and they get more than a wee bit nervous. Although they try to act as if there is nothing to it, underneath, they are scared to death of being rejected.
Many men find women intimidating, especially if they see the woman as being good looking, confident, and financially secure. It is a fact that there are a lot of men who look confident in themselves, but are nowhere near as secure as they seem.
Here are some tips that can save you from the big boom!
- If a woman tells you that she is not interested in you, take her word for it. There are a few exceptions, but most of the time, no means no. You may feel that she is playing hard to get, but if she doesn't respond to you in a positive way, move on to someone else.
- It is perfectly inbounds to compliment a woman on her looks and how she dresses, but don't insult her by making remarks about her body, even if she has a dynamite figure. Most women want men to like them for who they are, and not just for their body, so leave the anatomy comments for when you get to know her better.
- Read up on on current affairs. Women like men who are knowledgeable about what's going on in the news, locally, nationally, and around the world. Knowing about and understanding issues on current events is a good idea, but don't be overbearing and single minded with your opinions.
- Don't talk about ex-girlfriends or ex-spouses unless you are asked, and even if you are asked, don't ramble on about them. Too much talk about an ex will give the impression that you are still in love with her and it is a turnoff to many women.
- Be a gentleman. Women still like it when guys open doors for them, pull their chairs out for them at restuarants, offer them their coats if it is cool, buy them a rose, and show them a nice, romantic evening.
- If a woman agrees to go out with you, show up at the appointed time. If you are going to be late, call her and let her know. Most women hate it when they have to wait on a guy, especially on the first date.
- Don't dominate the conversation. When some people get nervous, they automatically start talking, and this can be irritating. Share the conversation by saying something about yourself and then asking your date something about her. Listen, and show that you are interest in what she is saying. Laugh spontaneously when she says something funny and keep the conversation upbeat.
- Don't try to sell yourself to her. Be yourself. If she likes you and wants to see you again, she will let you know.
- Single women go on dates for the same reason that single men date. They go out to have a good time and they are also looking for someone that they feel comfortable with, and they may, or may not, be in the market for a long term relationship.
- Women are advised not to bring up certain topics on the first date, like marriage and having children, but the same thing applies to men. Marriage and children are subjects that can be discussed on later dates, if there are any. Don't get too serious by bringing up topics like meeting her parents or marriage, that might scare her away.
When it's getting late, surprise her by ending the date. Most women are use to having guys wanting to hang out all night in hopes of having sex afterwards. End the date by telling her how great of a time you had with her, but it's getting late and you don't want her out at all times of the night. By ending the date this way, you can set yourself apart from other guys, and you send the message that your not desperate.
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